Divorce is the final step in dissolving and terminating a marriage between two people. The laws and processes around divorce of course differ between countries and even states/provinces, but the outcome is basically the same throughout the world.
Getting a divorce can be messy and complicated, there are a lot of emotions involved, not to mention time, money, and headaches. These issues can be even more stressful when children are involved in the situation, and often even pets. In this article are some quick facts about divorce.
If you are going through with a divorce, thinking about going through one, or know somebody who is, hopefully these facts and myths about divorce will help shed some light on the subject. It is one of the hardest things that somebody will go through in their lifetime, but this life-changing event doesn't have to end badly.
Reasons Why People Get Divorced
- money management
- extra-marital affairs
- mid-life crisis
- emotional/physical abuse
- family stress and interference from inlaws
- lack of sex-life and intimacy
- lack of maturity
- cultural and life style differences
- criminal behavior and incarceration
Facts About Divorce
- In North America, an average divorce requiring legal help costs from several thousand to $50,000 per couple and lasts one to more than two years.
- More than 25% of custody decisions in the United States and Canada are made in the courts.
- You do not need a lawyer to get a divorce.
- Statistically, most matrimonial cases do not go to a full trial.
- There are only two important matters in divorce: money and children.
- It is pretty much impossible to avoid using children as pawns and bargaining chips in the traditional system of divorce.
- Lawyers do not get paid well to settle the case quickly.
Myths About Divorce
- Second marriages tend to be more successful than first marriages.
- After divorce, women are more emotionally scarred and psychologically damaged than men.
- The economic consequences of divorce devastate women more than men.
- Most married men in the world cheat on their wives.
- Living together prior to marriage reduces the chances of eventually divorcing.
- Problems from divorce aren't long lasting and children recover farily quickly.
- Having a new child together will help a couple to improve their marital situation and prevent a divorce.
- Ex-spouses are always highly hostile towards one another, even to the point of acting out unethically.
- When parents don't get along, children are better off if their parents get divorced than if they stay together.