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Why you should consider eloping

Your wedding day should be the happiest day of your life, and for most it is, but the weeks and months leading up to the big day are often filled with high levels of stress. This is all down to the fact that there is so much to do and only a limited amount of time to do it in. It is no real surprise then that people are choosing to elope and get married rather than putting themselves in a position where stress sucks the joy out of the upcoming wedding. There are a number of reasons why eloping is a good idea, so let’s look at a few.

Perhaps the biggest stress factor in place when putting together a wedding is the cost. Even a small, romantic event can run into thousands of dollars, which is not an amount that everyone can easily afford. There often comes a time when sacrifices have to be made and certain things that you wanted in your wedding ditched so that you can go with another. Even if the parents are paying for the wedding, there is a fear to ask for what it is you really want so that you do not drain their finances. Eloping is a cost effective way to get married and still have a very memorable day.

We briefly touched on parents paying for the nuptials, which brings us nicely to another reason to elope. When planning a wedding, you start to realize that you are making decisions based on what other people want. Parent who are footing the bill might get the idea that they should have a say in every decision that’s made. In principle that sounds fair, but the reality is that you are ending up heading towards someone else’s idea of the perfect wedding day and not your own.

One of the biggest problems with people other than the bride and groom being involved in the decision process is that people end up getting invited that you would never have had there if it were up to you. It’s like a form of emotional blackmail, with distant cousin and relatives suddenly crawling out of the woodwork and feeling as though they should be part of your special day. When you elope, you can choose to either do it alone as a couple, or to have a few special friends and family members along who you know will appreciate what you are doing, and who won’t try to hog the spotlight.

It can be argued eloping is a much more romantic way to go. You save a small fortune on what you would expect to pay for a large wedding, which is money that can be put towards getting wed in a beautiful location of your choosing. You can have enough money left over to enjoy and extended honeymoon stay in the locale of your choice, or you can choose to go the practical route and use the saved money for a down payment on your first home together. Not everyone is going to like the idea of you eloping, but you need to remember that the most important people on the big day are you and your future spouse.